Too Picky? How Do You Know?

Some well-meaning people, usually people who are in a relationship, may tell their single friends that they are "too picky." What does this mean? What is the opposite of "too picky," anyway? If you are not picky, does that mean you'll settle for the first one who comes along, regardless of whether he meets your Requirements?

Look for balance. Of course you don't want to take the first person who comes along with no regard to your requirements, needs, and wants. But you also don't want to disregard a person because she has a hangnail either. These are extremes.

When you want to know if you're too picky, ask yourself why you have turned down potential partners in the past. If the reasons seem like flimsy excuses, maybe you're focusing on too many trivial details (his nose is slightly too long, she parts her hair on the wrong side). However, if you know what you require to make a relationship work, you will be able to say with confidence that you are a discerning individual.

Make a list of your relationship requirements, the things you cannot live without, and you will be better prepared to find what you seek in a relationship. You owe it to yourself to get clarity around this very important topic.