"About the only time I hear the word 'selfish' is when somebody is trying to manipulate somebody else to get them to do what they want them to do. So, for example, if somebody tells you, 'Well, you're just being selfish by not calling your mother' or 'You're just being selfish because you're going to do what you want to do' what the person's really saying is 'I'm selfish because I'm not getting what I want and it's your fault, so I'm going to tell you that you're being selfish so you'll quite doing it and I'll get what I want.'" Dr. Robert Glover
This is a quote from an interview of Dr. Glover. David Steele, founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute, interviews Dr. Robert Glover regarding his book, No More Mister Nice Guy. If you want to hear the entire podcast, go to http://consciousrelationshipseminars.blogspot.com/
This does make a lot of sense. It reminds me of similarly manipulative phrases that people use on each other, such as "If you loved me you would (do what I want you to do)." What are your thoughts about selfishness? I'd love to hear them!
Michelle E. Vásquez, MS, LPC, Your Successful Singles Love Coach
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