If you meet someone and find you have good chemistry, that's great. Attraction is the first step in getting to know a potential partner. If you skip the necessary steps to get to know this person, however, you could be headed for trouble.
Chemistry alone cannot be the foundation of a relationship. After a while the relationship will fail if that's all you've got to connect you.
Some people rush into sexual intimacy right after they meet, even on the first date. I have worked with men who do this, who tell me that after they've had sex, they begin to lose interest. I've worked with women who have sex too soon and find they stay with the man for all the wrong reasons because they feel connected to him sexually.
I would encourage both men and women to do a lot of talking before they succumb to their attraction to each other. The hormone high of attraction to each other can be compelling. You can save yourself a lot of heartache by spending time getting to know each other before you decide to be sexual (unless that's all you're interested in).
Get to know the person you're dating by asking questions about their values in different areas that are important to you, such as finances, jobs, fun, relationships with their parents, children, spirituality, exercise, to name a few. You will be in a better position to make an informed decision about whether to take the dating to the next level or say, "thanks, but no thanks." I welcome your thoughts about this topic.
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