The Road Less Traveled

I may not know about your particular relationship, but I know behavior patterns, having worked as a therapist with people in abusive relationships for over 14 years. By abusive, I don't mean physical violence alone. I include addictive behavior, controlling behavior, infidelity, repeatedly breaking promises, and threatening, to name a few.

I've seen very few people change unless they are willing to acknowledge they have a problem and are also willing to work towards a change. And stick with it.

Most people are all too willing to blame others, circumstances, themselves, etc. Most people are not on a self-growth path. It is the road less traveled.

Most people are in love with someone else's potential, not with the person as they are now. They can also be in love with how the person was when they first met (during the dating phase, also known as the "best behavior phase.")

If you are in such a relationship or if you have been in a series of such relationships, it is imperative that you ask yourself why you keep doing this. You must look at yourself and ask why you are willing to stay with someone who treats you so badly.

Traveling the road less traveled is a lonely road. Most people settle for the first person who comes along, then spend their lives trying to "fix" that person. The question to ask yourself is: "Do I want to be like most people or do I want to hold out for that relationship that brings joy to my life?"